Focus- A Great Tool For Happiness

Well, wouldn’t it be fun to buy a set of rosy-coloured glasses, and usually see the world all round us as pleasant and delightful?
I believe that your answer is “Yes!”
So let us look at one among the most vital structure blocks of the “How to” of Happiness: Focus.

Yes, despite all of the exciting and lesser exciting stuff occurring in your Conscious and Unconscious Mind, you can choose to focus on specific bits of details, and not on others. Where you put your focus helps to decide to a major extent your moment-to-moment level of Happiness.

This, very basically, is how it’s viable to exist below a tarpaulin beside a rubbish tip in the Third World and smile. Now, it will be ridiculous to say that all the underprivileged people in, say, India are joyful, but basically they completely fail to show the difficulty we (with our map of the world) expect them to.

Curiously, in their map of the world it’s great that they’re in a position to be together with their family all day (which perhaps for few of us in the West could work around as fine as living beneath a tarpaulin!), and they see us wandering alone throughout their country, thousands of miles from our parents and siblings, and apparently a fair few of them sense a intense sadness that we’re missing out on life’s greatest joy. In the meantime we’re focused on their poverty, dirty surroundings and the information that they’ll probably by no means be able to afford a coffee machine, and feel pitiful for them.

When people say “Oh but my life is so hard!” I refer them to this example, and they have to admit that yes, there are people with “difficult” lives who are happy - simply through the strength of Focus. Which means that, for them, their life is really not so difficult at all.

Fortunately, you do not need to grow up in the Third World to observe the positive in your situation (though sometimes it appears to me that it helps!)
But we do have to be aware of few quite destructive cultural conditioning, which often says to us “You do not have enough. Get more. You do not have enough. Hurry up before it runs out!”

The truth is, there will always be things we don’t have - look at all the bits of the world that even a multi-billionaire like Bill Gates does not have the money to buy, or the time to get round to enjoying. If there is too much for him to purchase/ enjoy/ create, what hope is there for us?
So we can safely focus on what’s within our grasp - the good things we already have in our lives, and the great things we’re going to produce for ourselves!

These days most of us have heard the idea “glass half full/glass half empty”. This is a perfect example of the might of Focus. If you prefer to look at the air above the beer, you will see a huge and hollow void, stretching as widely as you want it to.
But if you choose to see the beer, you will see beer. Or freshly squeezed tropical fruit juice. Or gold. Or love. Or Happiness.

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